The Contrariness of the Mad Farmer

The Contrariness of the Mad Farmer

I am done with apologies. If contrariness is my
inheritance and destiny, so be it. If it is my mission
to go in at exits and come out at entrances, so be it.
I have planted by the stars in defiance of the experts,
and tilled somewhat by incantation and by singing,
and reaped, as I knew, by luck and Heaven’s favor,
in spite of the best advice. If I have been caught
so often laughing at funerals, that was because
I knew the dead were already slipping away,
preparing a comeback, and can I help it?
And if at weddings I have gritted and gnashed
my teeth, it was because I knew where the bridegroom
had sunk his manhood, and knew it would not
be resurrected by a piece of cake. ‘Dance,’ they told me,
and I stood still, and while they stood
quiet in line at the gate of the Kingdom, I danced.
‘Pray,’ they said, and I laughed, covering myself
in the earth’s brightnesses, and then stole off gray
into the midst of a revel, and prayed like an orphan.
When they said, ‘I know my Redeemer liveth,’
I told them, ‘He’s dead.’ And when they told me
‘God is dead,’ I answered, ‘He goes fishing every day
in the Kentucky River. I see Him often.’
When they asked me would I like to contribute
I said no, and when they had collected
more than they needed, I gave them as much as I had.
When they asked me to join them I wouldn’t,
and then went off by myself and did more
than they would have asked. ‘Well, then,’ they said
‘go and organize the International Brotherhood
of Contraries,’ and I said, ‘Did you finish killing
everybody who was against peace?’ So be it.
Going against men, I have heard at times a deep harmony
thrumming in the mixture, and when they ask me what
I say I don’t know. It is not the only or the easiest
way to come to the truth.
It is one way.

~ By Wendell Berry

The Story of Squaw Jim, We’Wha, Botés, Berdaches and Winktes

The Story of Squaw Jim, We’Wha, Botés, Berdaches and Winktes

The black and white postcard above has been in my library as long as I can remember; I never studied it closely, thinking it was an old late nineteenth century - early twentieth century photograph of two native women, two sisters or female family members. Reminding me of two recent Higher Haven visitors, two sisterly gals who were happy to reconnect at a summer Ceremonial gathering, I corresponded with them later by mail, bringing the old photo to mind. Addressing it, I was surprised to find this blurb on the back:

“SQUAW JIM, Osch-Tisch ‘Finds Them and Kills Them’ (1854-1929). This remarkable photograph is titled ‘Squaw Jim and His Squaw’. On the left is Squaw Jim, a biological male in woman’s attire — a Crow Berdache or male homosexual afforded distinctive social and ceremonial status within the tribe. In addition to the special attributes that distinguished the berdache or boté, Squaw Jim served as an enlisted scout at Fort Keogh and achieved a reputation for bravery when he saved the life of a tribesman at The Battle of Rosebud, June 17th, 1876. This 1877 photo is the earliest known of a North American Indian Berdache.”

Interesting to note that my Teacher’s Teacher Chief Leonard Emmanuel Crowdog’s family was at the Rosebud battle, still residing to this day in south central South Dakota, USA. The Lakota people, too, had their Winktes, the contraction of an old Lakota word, winyanktehca, meaning '[wants] to be like a woman', historically, the winkte considered a social category of male-bodied individuals who adopt the clothing, work, and mannerisms that Lakota culture usually considers feminine. However, in contemporary Lakota culture, winkte is usually used to refer to a homosexual man. Like the Crow, the tribe regarded them as regular members of the community, and not in any way marginalized for their status, while other accounts held the winkte as sacred, occupying a liminal, third-gender role in the culture, and born to fulfill ceremonial roles that could not be filled by either men or women.

This regard in traditional cultures for gender bending tribal members made a recent appearance in a Google Doodle focused on We’ wha, a well-recognized member of the Zuni tribe. “The late We’wha was an individual who exemplified one of the core values of the Zuni people,” goes the backstory, “And that was compassion.” Born in 1849 in Zuni, New Mexico, in the northwest corner of the state that is the tribe’s home, We’wha was born a male but identified as lhamana or female. The tribe’s first ambassador, she was accepted for who she was and visited Washington D.C., playing an influential role in getting the Zuni people’s voice heard and bridged an important gap in cultural understanding.

“You can call her a he, you can call him a her, but in the Zuni language there is a third gender — ihamana — or two-spirit”, similar in some ways to the Lakota Winkte. They too were highly regarded for their special, dual-role in society. The rest of the Google Doodle story honors We’wha, and, as it states, the hope upon viewing is that all people feel a connection to their own ancestry, as well as the strong individuals who came before us, and start a dialogue on what is important to us in our lives, as a tribe. “To hear the story of We’wha and how revered he was amongst his people should be a point of pride for all people, and an inspiration to go back and bring about their old customs, and remind the younger generation to think about the ambassadors and the care givers, the mothers and the fathers, individuals from the past who exemplify the culture.” And whose Spirits are in ways still with us today.

Fall Retreats, Private Visits & 2021's Close

Fall Retreats, Private Visits & 2021's Close

Autumn is upon us, Fall arriving in full force, the golden season, the time of death and renewal, the time to let shadow lengthen on the sundials as the poet Reiner Maria Rilke wrote, and in the pastures let the rough winds fly. It’s also a fabulous time to visit The Higher Haven, to experience the beauty of the transforming landscape, coupled with a practice that allows one to be touched by tranquility and nature in a deep, equally transformative way. It’s also the best time of the year for Ceremony, and, as it turns out this year, private visits. We’re happy to report that due to demand, we’ll be offering a special Nurture Positivity Weekend Retreat just prior to the hectic Holiday season, the weekend of November 20th. This will be a special offering with overnight accommodations available as well as additional techniques and teachings coupled with our Saturday November 20th Meditation + Mindfulness 101 class that was previously scheduled. We’ll be offering our monthly Ceremonial Weekend Overnight through December, and posting new 2022 retreats soon.

Until then, we do have limited spots for private lessons and visits through the end of the year. Here’s Summerlyn on her recent experience; “I can't express enough gratitude to Paul and The Higher Haven. Traveling a spiritual path can be tiresome and lonely at times. I found myself exhausted and in need of understanding and compassion. I booked a one-on-one session with Paul. He is a very compassionate listener who understood me and was able to provide me with a space to unravel, as well as a clarity to move forward. It was after our one-on-one one that I decided to participate in Ceremony. It was here that I remembered that as we move into trials and tribulations, that ancient truths were left to the world’s indigenous people for protection until it was needed. Now is the time to honor and remember who we really are. Ceremony also connected me to others that have a similar mindset. Finding others to take a stand with is always amazing for we are stronger when we stand together. I will always remember and cherish the love I found at Higher Haven. Thank you to Paul and The Higher Haven Community - an amazing group of people.” An ever-evolving and expanding group and one we hope you’ll be joining soon.